Ever wonder why you feel so alone even though you’re surrounded by people at church, work, and family gatherings?
Here’s what most women of faith do wrong: They think being faithful means having it all together. So they smile through depression, serve others while running on empty, and convince themselves that “good believers don’t struggle like this.”
But here’s the truth that might surprise you.
The Real Problem Isn’t Being Alone—It’s Being Unseen
Feeling understood isn’t about finding people who think you’re perfect; nobody’s perfect. It’s about finding people who see your struggles and don’t try to fix you with a Bible verse and a pat on the head.
You know what I’m talking about, right? That moment when you finally share something real—maybe your anxiety about the future, or how overwhelmed you feel trying to keep up with everyone else’s highlight reels—and someone immediately jumps to:
- “Have you tried praying more?”
- “Everything happens for a reason”
- “God won’t give you more than you can handle”
Those responses shut down connection instead of building it.
And if you’re dealing with anxiety on top of loneliness? That constant worry about whether you’re measuring up, whether people actually want you around, whether you’re “too much” for others… it creates this exhausting cycle where you pull back even more.
What Actually Works for Building Real Connection
After years of advocating for mental health in faith communities, I’ve seen what actually creates the deep connections we’re all craving:
✨ Stop pretending you’re fine
Being real draws the right people. The ones worth keeping won’t run when they see your humanity.
✨ Name your struggles specifically
“I’m fine” connects with no one. But “I’m anxious about my future” or “I feel behind in life” connects with everyone going through the same thing.
✨ Look for listeners, not fixers
The people who say “me too” instead of “have you tried…” are your people. They understand that sometimes you don’t need solutions—you need to be seen.
The Mindset Shift That Changes Everything
You don’t need to earn love by being problem-free. You earn deep connection by being courageously human.
I’ve seen too many incredible women isolate themselves because they think their struggles disqualify them from belonging.
They don’t.
Your anxiety doesn’t disqualify you. Your depression doesn’t disqualify you. Your questions about faith don’t disqualify you. Your relationship status doesn’t disqualify you. That overthinking brain that keeps you up at 2 AM wondering if people actually like you? That doesn’t disqualify you either.
Your struggles—including the anxious thoughts that feel so overwhelming—make you relatable, not broken.
But Here’s What I Want You to Do Right Now
I created something that might help you figure out exactly where those connection gaps are in your life.
It’s called the “Why Do I Feel So Alone?” Assessment, and it takes about 5 minutes to complete.
👉 Take the Free Assessment Here
This isn’t another generic personality test. It’s specifically designed to help you identify:
- Where you feel most and least understood in your relationships
- Whether you’re surrounded by “fixers” or “listeners”
- What specific changes would help you feel more connected
- Your personalized connection score across different areas of life
Plus, you can get your detailed results emailed to you for future reference.
What You’ll Discover
The assessment looks at four key areas where most of us experience connection gaps:
- Faith Community – Do you feel safe being real about your struggles?
- Work/Professional – Can you bring your authentic self to work?
- Family – Do family expectations align with who you really are?
- Close Friendships – Are your friends listeners or fixers?
You’ll get a personalized score for each area, plus specific insights about where to focus your energy for building deeper connections.
Your Next Step
Take the “Why Do I Feel So Alone?” Assessment now
It’s completely free, takes just a few minutes, and you’ll get insights you can actually use to build the meaningful connections you’re craving.
Remember: Even Jesus withdrew to quiet places to connect with his Father. If perfect love incarnate needed moments of connection and reflection, maybe we can give ourselves that same grace.
You don’t have to figure this out alone.
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Comments: What’s one struggle you wish more people understood about your life? Your honesty might be exactly what someone else needs to hear.
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